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Tips to Get Over a Broken Heart

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People who enter into a special relationship sometimes throw themselves into the situation heart and soul. As they soak in the joy of being the apple of someone’s eye, they sink every bit of their being into making the relationship with that person the best it can be. Unfortunately, if a relationship like this ends, there can be some very deep feelings of hurt.  What follows are some simple tips to get over a broken heart.  I hope they help you.

Dealing with Heartbreak

tips for a broken heart

Friends can help you to get over a broken heart.

Knowing how to deal with this heart breaking reality can be difficult to fathom. You must focus yourself on healing if this has happened to you. Each person is an individual, so not every method will be right for every person, but here are some simple pointers to get you on the road to emotional healing as quickly as possible.

5 Tips to Get Over a Broken Heart

1. Although rebound relationships are generally seen as a bad thing that should be avoided, you may want to consider looking for one. Do not do anything silly or anything that you may regret, but try to get out and have some fun with another person. For some, this is enough to completely get over a broken heart. At the very least, it can be a way to take your mind off of the pain you might be feeling

2. You might also want to consider getting in touch with someone you had a relationship with previously. This isn’t to suggest that you should go running back to re-start a relationship. Rather, this should be done just as a gentle reminder to yourself that you have made it through a similar challenge previously and that you will be fine now.

3. As long as you are not indulging in anything dangerous, you might also want to just go ahead and get yourself some kind of special treat. A small splurge might help you to smile again and nudge you toward seeing that life does go on and can be enjoyed without the person you had a relationship with previously.

4. If you have a group of friends that you have let drift away during your relationship, try rounding them all up again. They may tease you a bit if you haven’t been in touch, but more likely, they will welcome you back into the fold and help to get you back on your own two feet again.

5. If things are really not going well for you, you can always talk to a professional about the feelings you are having and the struggles that are making life tough. This could be a doctor, a clergyman, or any other person trained in dealing with the difficult issues you are facing. Don’t go it alone. There are many helpful resources available to you if you need them.

If you find that you’re still struggling with lost love after a significant amount of time, you might also want to read this for some extra support.  I found it on a website that I visit from time to time.

What do you like to talk about?

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Have you ever found yourself struggling for something “good” to talk about?  I know that I have in the past.  Being tongue tied is quite embarrassing, especially when it happens with a member of the opposite sex.  It’s funny.  As a young guy, you run through all of these scenarios in your mind.  You spot the beautiful girl.  You casually saunter over to begin what will certainly be a magical encounter.  In your mind, everything goes swimmingly.  You don’t really give a lot (if any) thought to what you’ll actually say.  You just know that it will be fascinating, amusing, entertaining, and will totally sweep her off of her feet.   Yeah, right.  They say that the devil is in the details.  That little detail of knowing what to say is a real bugger.  Standing there with your mouth agape is not impressive.  Having some interesting topics to talk about lined up in advance can go a long way toward succeeding with anyone, not just a target on your babe radar.

Do you ever listen to the conversations you have with other people?  Are they majorly one sided in your favor?  If you spend the majority of interesting conversationyour time listing all of the wonderful things you’ve seen and experienced, you will quickly find yourself standing on shaky ground with the person you are speaking to.  No one wants to listen to that drivel.  People like to talk about themselves for the most part.  You need to develop some conversational skills.  When they hit the proverbial ball into your court, you need to reply and give them something back that they can work with.  Try actually listening to what they have to say so that you don’t look like a complete bonehead as the conversation moves along.  I you have been talking for close to a minute straight, you might just be monopolizing the conversation.  Shut your pie hole and listen to what the other person has to say.  You will be amazed at how fascinating people find you when they don’t have to deal with your selfish rambling about yourself.  Remember that most people are very much centered on what they are living.  Give them a little bit of attention and feedbank and you will be amazed at how a week or two can change one’s perspective.